Dropkick that jerk from your life, girl

Paul ran to Walgreens a little while ago and there was a guy outside who’d apparently been thrown out of the house by his girlfriend. Paul heard the guy talking shit to his friend sitting in the car and saying he was gonna “kill that bitch” because he had to sleep out in the cold.

Of course, this is a primary example why Paul & I have kept more to ourselves over the years. Stuff like that — brutish, thuggish behavior — fills us with incredible anxiety and we just don’t wanna be out and about in the world around people like that. It seems society is getting meaner and more thuggish by the day. Almost as if anti-intellectualism and lack of education is worn as a badge of honor and is something to brag about.

In my view, if this is the way that guy is, then I’d say his girlfriend not only needs to kick his ass out of house, but out of her life as well. Why women get with these assholes is beyond me. Not a fan of the shit-talking, macho man type. Better to be single than be miserable with a jerk like that.

Mind Dump: Syria, Putin, U.S. politics, etc.

Did any of you read Vladimir Putin’s Op-Ed in the NYT? I just wrote an article about the messy business in Syria and decided I’d post this in case some of you hadn’t heard about it or read it.

My personal opinion is that the United States needs to spend time OUT of other people’s business and concentrate on our OWN crumbling infrastructure and economy. We have people without adequate housing and food HERE. We have plenty of problems HERE in our country that must be addressed.

I’m not saying we should never help others — not at all. However, for the billions of dollars spent over the last decade, what could we have done for our OWN citizens in THIS country? A helluva lot, that’s what.

I’m amused how we have a large, flowing money river to fund wars (and send our youngest and brightest soldiers over to get wounded, maimed, or die in a foreign country, spending their valuable lives as if they were cheap and disposable), yet when the issues of education or health care come up (or insert other needs here), the dunderheads in Washington (both parties, I might add) scream, “OMG! WE AIN’T GOT ENOUGH MONEY FOR THAT!”


You find money to spend depending on where your interests lie…it’s that simple. It’s time to put OUR people and OUR country FIRST for a while, dammit.

Remember: put the oxygen mask over your face FIRST in the event of an emergency, THEN help others. It seems so simple and so common sense, but apparently it’s not.

One more thing: I’ve love to see ONE politician with BALLS (or ovaries) step up to the plate and be REAL with the American people. Fuck lobbyists, fuck special interests, fuck the bipartisan postering, fuck your ego, fuck all the other bullshit. You work for US, remember? Better damn well remember it, chummies!

/steps off soapbox

[Quote] Oh, Harlan Ellison :-)

“I hate when a director says to me ‘Here’s how I envision this scene’…excuse me? It’s right here in the script—I ‘envisioned’ it FOR you. Do what I wrote. If you want to ‘envision’, you should become a writer. Where the fuck were you when the page was blank?”
―Harlan Ellison

If you don’t “get” me, this is a post for you

To those of you who don’t “get me” or are frustrated at trying to connect with me. Please read and, perhaps, you’ll understand. Or not. At any rate, this is how things are with me, and you can accept them or not. You cannot change the person I am or erase the issues I’ve had all my life. I’m pasting a conversation I had with sister Aspergirl friend, Thorne. In hindsight, I think it was meant for a blog post.

First and foremost, I am an Aspie female. I did not have a clue until last year. **And this is where I pick up from Thorne’s conversation**: “After going through life and wondering what was wrong with me, and learning how to ‘act’ in order to get along with others (the best I can) and cope with my surroundings, it was a relief to find out there was an explanation for it. Now I just wish that some people I know would take the time to understand why I am the way that I am and not ask me to change for them.

My biggest pet peeve is when someone who is not me and who has NOT lived my life tries to tell me I’m THIS but NOT that — and they try to act like they know who I am inside. I think I know myself better than anyone else, quite frankly, and I am most assuredly a female Aspie. I’m also very smart and I have learned to shift my behavior and I’ve had to learn to cope by mimicking others or learning how to respond (there are still situations where I mess it up) throughout my life. I know (Thorne) you’ve had the SAME problems with such things. It’s very annoying! Pretty arrogant for someone else to act like THEY know you better than yourself, isn’t it? Grrrr! I think I’ve lived in this body and with this mind for 48 1/2 years and have had a lot of experiences that they don’t know about, so they can either accept that this IS me or they can pound sand. They don’t get to tell ME who I am, know what I mean? I’m just thinking of the stuff you and I have discussed privately. People can be soo annoying over stuff like this. I’m glad Nan posted it and shared with me!

Like you said, this will definitely come in handy; it would be even handier if you could have a sheet that you carried around and handed out to people when they “just don’t get you.” You could say, “Here, read this!” They probably wouldn’t, because most of them don’t care enough to bother. But still, it’s tempting.”

I always find it interesting that people who would push, scream and cry against you trying to change them or tell them who they are seem all too eager to change YOU or tell YOU who you are or are not. What arrogance! I know who I am, I know all kinds of shit I’ve been through (that YOU know nothing about) and I think I’m more of an expert on ME than you are by far.

I love when I tell people I have PTSD and they try to tell me I couldn’t possibly have it (like my oldest brother did). Hey, why not talk the psychiatrist who diagnosed me (along with several other issues)– how about that? Who the hell is ANYONE to tell ME they are a bigger expert on me than I am MYSELF?! I wouldn’t EVER dare do that to someone else. It’s not my place, and it’s not anyone else’s place to do that to me.

So, the bottom line is that I’m who I am am for a reason, and if I do not fit into your tidy world view or you don’t know how to “deal” or “connect” with me, that’s your issue and not mine. If I cannot “deal” with someone or cannot “connect” with them (and I can be nice and congenial to most people, but I rarely feel a true and deep connection with them — just being honest), I simply decide to keep walking my path and if we find a way to relate, that’s great. If we don’t, I’m not interested in forcing it into being something it’s not.

I will say this — if you have publicly insulted or embarrassed me in the past, there is very little chance I will allow you an opening to do that again. Rude, tactless behavior directed at shaming someone in front of others by drawing attention to their physical appearance is NOT a cool thing to do, and if you truly had compassion, you wouldn’t think of doing that to a so-called friend.

Okay, a long post, but I needed to get it out of my system. If I’ve offended anyone, that’s your issue. You’re welcome to stay, but invited to leave if you do not understand that this is my virtual home and sanctuary and I post whatever I want on my blog without any permission needed. This place is primarily for MY expression and thoughts. You have your own place for YOUR expression and thoughts.

Also, a warning: if you are combative or mean in the comments, you will be removed and blocked. I don’t think anyone will be, but just in case. 🙂 This is a statement I needed to make in a firm, yet authentic, way. It is NOT a post that’s up for debate or examination. Now, back to our regularly scheduled programming. 😉

The most useless customer service e-mail I’ve ever received (I’m talking to YOU, Barnes & Noble!)

Really, Barnes & Noble?! “We can’t comment on this matter”? Why?! If you, the company itself, cannot comment on this matter or do anything about it…then who can? This is the type of stuff I’ve been dealing with for MONTHS regarding books that I wrote and own ALL the rights to! This has to be the dumbest, most mind-boggling response to a customer service query I’ve ever received. And then to end with, “We hope you find this information helpful”? Wow. I don’t even know. Is it just me, folks, or are you shaking your head at this response as well? I highly doubt they can truly “feel my frustration.”

——– Original Message ——–
Subject: RE: Customer Service Mail – Order Number:Re: Mending Fences by Star Ferris – Other
Date: Sat, 27 Apr 2013 10:00:08 -0400 (EST)

Dear Bev Sninchak,

Thank you for your email.

We understand that you have not authorized Barnes and Noble to carry “Mending Fences.” We feel your frustration. However, we are sorry if we cannot comment on this matter. We apologize for any inconvenience.

We provide answers to many questions posed by publishers and authors in the FAQs on our website:

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We hope you find this information helpful.


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Guys: If you’re gonna write about sex, make it sexy!

Over the years, I’ve read and edited a lot of manuscripts. Most men cannot write about sex worth a damn. They’re terrible (most of them, anyway). It’s true! Talk about lame. Ugh! When you find yourself rolling your eyes or emitting a deep belly laugh, then you know the scene is anything BUT sensuous or erotic. Guys, please, if you’re not adept at writing sex scenes, DON’T! Don’t name your penises, either. You end up sounding silly, not sexy.

Enough already!

Regarding the theater shooting: I predicted this would happen a few years ago and that it would result in increased security at theaters. Ask Paul, because I told him. How am I able to figure this stuff out, but the higher-ups can’t? If you are a student of human behavior/psychology, then you can figure it out (sadly).

The world is an INSANE place, people. Some wingnut was bound to do this. All those people wanted was to watch a movie and have a good time. But no, we can’t have a good time anymore, can we? What a disgusting waste of skin that guy is. Always some sociopathic/psychopathic jerk ruining it for others and causing untold amounts of pain and suffering.

There are NO excuses and I have NO mercy, compassion or forgiveness for this mass murderer. I reserve those kinds of things for people who DESERVE them — such as the poor victims’ families/friends. I don’t CARE what bad childhood you had, if mommy didn’t love you enough or WHAT the so-called excuse is. Bullshit! There’s NO excuse.

Get the trial going, and when he’s convicted, mete out punishment RIGHT away. I’m going to the movies this weekend as a big “F you” in response to such pieces of shit still walking around in society! This is domestic terrorism, and I refuse to be kept in my home and in the grip of fear because of sick people like this!