Do you NaNo?

Why I’m never sure if I’ll do NaNoWriMo from year to year: I’m a working writer and editor who works for multiple clients. That means I write and edit to support my family (and have for the past 16 1/2 years). Over an average month, I pump out about 2,000 words or more a day (or 60,000 per month, on average, if you count 30 days in a usual month).

In addition to my paying contract work, I also write my OWN stuff, from blogs and journals to books I’m already fiddling with, plus anything else in between…which means even MORE words ON TOP of what I already write for contract jobs.

When NaNoWriMo rolls around, if I attempt to write 50k words ON TOP of what I already write on an average month…well, that’s a lot of writing. And I love writing (which is why I do it), but you can clearly understand why 50k in a month isn’t a big deal for me. I’m already surpassing that just by the words I am writing to begin with…so NaNoWriMo is, for me, an even bigger challenge because it’s that many words over and above everything else I’ve got going on.

What I’m saying is this: you CAN write 50k a month with NO PROBLEM if you just take it as a day-to-day adventure. If you’re not concentrating on, “OMG, I have to write 50k a month!” and, instead, think of it in terms of X number of pages per day or X number of words in a day, it becomes much easier.

And yes, I’ve decided to do NaNoWriMo in addition to my usual writing and editing commitments.  Because, you know, I DO love any excuse to write! *smile*

YOU can do it, too. ADD me on NaNoWriMo. I’m listed as elementalmuse under the participant profiles: http://nanowrimo.org/participants/elementalmuse

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3 Unique Tips for Saving Money on Business Travel: Staying in a Hostel?!

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Celebrating eight wonderful years!

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Eight years ago Paul T. Sninchak and I met in person, at Pikes Perk on Tejon, for the first time. We had coffee, talked, he kissed my hand, and we walked down Tejon, where we shared our first kiss (he asked my permission first, which greatly impressed me). My life changed in so many ways — it was a blessing! In September, not long before we met, I wrote a letter to myself, outlining the type of man I wished I could find…and in November 2005, I found him. Every single characteristic/personality trait I wrote down he has — every single one! He is my husband, best friend, lover, stepfather to my children, creative manager, confidante, and anything else you can think of. Happy original anniversary, my love! They don’t make ’em like you anymore…and I’m so BLESSED and THANKFUL we are on this life journey together. The universe couldn’t have brought me a more fitting or loving partner. ♥♥♥

What is a “real man”? For me, the definition is different.

It occurred to me there’s a reason why I find my husband so irresistible…and it is the same reason why I find many Asian (especially Japanese) men attractive.

My husband is confident in his masculinity without having to buy into all the tropes of what our Western culture often tells us a “real man” is or what one should look like. Often that cultural definition means he has a macho bent, is rugged looking (the typical Marlboro man vibe), drinks beer or whiskey, watches sports all the time, etc. You get the old stereotype I mean, right?

My husband does not fit any of those things, and I can assure you he is a “real man.” He’s straight edge, hates watching sports, and doesn’t adhere to macho behavior. Oh, and he’s not afraid to be romantic, either in public or private.

As for Asian men, they can dress up in androgynous clothes and perform in visual kei (ヴィジュアル系) bands looking very feminine in their makeup and wigs…but that doesn’t mean they’re not “real” men, nor does it mean they’re gay (a common snarky comment from guys who, apparently, are uncomfortable or somehow threatened by pretty men who challenge ideas of what “a real man” should look like.)

It means such male Asian performers are confident enough in their sexuality to express themselves and perform as they wish, all the while knowing who they are without feeling the need to prove that they’re “man enough” to anyone.

I, for one, am not turned off by the aesthetic of pretty men, regardless of culture. The subtle sexuality that’s hinted at beneath it all is what I look for. Creativity, an artistic bent, a love of books, a more understated energy that belies a hotter intensity at the core is what does it for me. Oh, and intelligence is essential as well.

So, the next time one of you men wants to say a guy doesn’t look or act manly enough, you better check yourself. That guy who doesn’t like football and prefers to read poetry instead might charm your woman into the bedroom and seduce her ten times to Sunday while you’re busy dissing him with your buddies.

Men come in many packages and don’t fit into tidy stereotypes—just like women. What is a “real man”? However he defines himself…not how you choose to define him.